isnt that amazing!? its like a christmas tree of pumpkins!
i caught a ride to the cornmaze with some people i dont know. and for the most part i felt so out of place. there were two pairs of friends and then there was me. i didnt have anything to say cuz they were talking about friend stuff. and since i didnt have anything to contribute to their conversations i was just quiet...pretty much the whole way there. i discovered that i can be very shy when im out of my comfort zone...maybe shy is not the right word. (i hope i didnt come accross as snobby or stuck up.) its more like quiet, reserved, observant. sometimes it made me not wanna be there. i found myself second guessing my choice to go. and wondered if i shoulda stayed home to study...or watch the volleyball game against the utes. but i knew that was already outta the question so i had to make the best of it.
the rest of the evening turned out to be not so bad after all...i met up with my roommates when we got there and hung out with them. its nice to have people you're comfortable with. and its so much better to have friends than to be an outsider. i decided that im gonna make more of an effort to help people feel included...cuz i dont like feeling unincluded.
we ended up going through the haunted cornfields instead of the maze. and it was SCARY!!! i got chased by a chainsaw man!!! i screamed a lot. :p
the drive home was much better cuz one of the girls acknowledged my existence and included me in her conversation. and i appreciated her for that.
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I think I'm feeling this way in my own ward... The people there are nice but they don't feel real. I decided that I was going to try harder to get out of my shell (you'd be amazed at how hard it is to find friends just because everyone already has their eternal friend so they don't act like they need more...) especially for my better-half's sake--he's such a friendly person and I think it's hard for him to only hang out with me. (Not that he doesn't enjoy it; but he's always been a social butterfly and really appreciates having other friends...)
Anyway... the point of that was just to say that it's nice to have friends and that I agree with you: people should be careful about making others feel excluded.
i support your goal to try harder. :) didnt you say you made friends with your vt companion?
lol. you cant say "people should be careful"...all you can say is "i should be careful"! =D
yup. we're buds. not friends but buds. and it was because i decided to try harder.
and i don't think i mis-spoke (is that a word??) when i said i think people should be careful... but if we're trying to be PC (oh boy i feel like meags *lol*) i can say i should be careful... :P
not PC! i meant: when you point a finger at someone else theres always 3 fingers pointing back. so instead of saying where everybody else should be doing all we can say is what WE should be doing. get it?
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